Most moms think that self-care is unfeasible. Self-care for a busy mom (EVERY MOM) is 100% achievable and more importantly necessary for good mental health. It is very tough to care for your family when you have not even been taking care of yourself.
I will be the first to confess, I was not always the best at self-care. After suffering from PPD with my third child, I try to make it a point to always do a little self-care daily. Yes, you read that right! DAILY!This is coming from an army wife who often doesn’t have the luxury of having her husband home.
As moms we have way more responsibilities than just keeping the kids alive. Moms wear many hats. We are wives, caretakers, chiefs, chauffeur, teacher, maid, and the list could go on forever. Taking on all these occupations can really break you down after a while. In my experience, I entirely lost myself after having my third child. Putting everyone’s needs before my own was something I did way to frequently. I was physically and mentally drained. Giving myself five minutes to relax seemed impossible. How can a mom of three have anytime for herself without neglecting something else?
After my husband brought it to my attention that I was not okay, I quickly found a therapist. The first thing the therapist told me was “You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to everyone but yourself.” Those words hit me like a ton of bricks.
Self-care can happen for any mom and is not just some fairy-tale impression you see on the “perfect moms Instagram page”. As a mom you must realize that when you start self-care that it won’t come easy. Let’s get started!
- Make a list of things that made your soul happy before being a wife and mother. This can be taking time to read, write, or even just taking a trip to the store alone. Pedicures are personally my favorite!
- Start small! Even if your first task is a five-minute shower alone. This can be a great start to your journey of self-care.
- WRITE IT ON YOUR CALANDER! I know seems silly right, but it works. When writing this on your calendar you are making it official. Even if it’s the five-minute shower we talked about. Write it down! YOU DESERVE IT!
- Let go of the control. Parenting made me notice I can be extremely type-A. Realize that your husband deservers to have a chance to parent and bond with the kids on his own. Your kids need time with their father.
- Make sure to talk to your spouse how important this is for you to have self-care. Having an open dialogue with your husband about self-care and ways he can help can be extremely healthy for your relationship.
- Wake up before your kids wake up! Enjoy a cup of coffee alone, put some makeup on (if that’s your thing), shower, just do something for yourself to start your day! Sleep is amazing, but I promise after making this your routine you will thank me.
Here is a list of 40 great things you can do for yourself:
- Go get coffee alone or with a friend
- Shopping alone at your favorite store
- Get your nails done!
- Bubble bath
- Go to dinner with a friend or even alone
- Go to the movie theater
- Read a book
- Make a vision board
- Write in a journal
- Go to the gym
- Get your hair done
- Spend some time baking
- Take a nap
- Try doing a puzzle
- Go dancing
- Binge watch your favorite show
- Join a club or moms group
- Go get a massage
- Have a girl’s night
- Go for a long walk
- Do a face mask
- Go listen to Live music
- Learn a new skill
- Enjoy a sweet treat alone
- Listen to a podcast
- Do a fun craft
- Buy yourself some flowers
- Go to the Library
- Scroll through social media
- Play with an animal
- Call a friend
- Plant something
- Have a glass of wine…… or a bottle. No judgement!
- Watching the sunrise or sunset.
- Go for a swim
I could go on forever with all the things you can do for yourself. Just remember self-care isn’t selfish!
Here are a few links to some of my favorite self-care items.
Lush Bath bombs: https://www.lushusa.com/bath-shower/
Bubble Bath: https://www.amazon.com/Teals-Foaming-Bath-Eucalyptus-Spearmint/dp/B00HH1EBIM/ref=sr_1_7?crid=130V0BA9EKDSK&keywords=bubble+bath&qid=1563751275&s=gateway&sprefix=Bubble+bath%2Caps%2C222&sr=8-7
One of my favorite Books: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/my-husbands-wife-jane-corry/1124120290?ean=9780735220966#/